Wrong. Life is beyond any plan— and we’ve finally learned it the hard way.

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With the lockdown coming to end I am kinda feeling nostalgic.

A time from our lives where we changed from being social animals to just live with ourselves.

So here’s me taking a pause and rewinding!

MARCH 2020— our lives paused in the most weird and unexpected way.

And here I was— stuck at home with my family in bidar.

The first week, I felt that I needed this guilt-free break.

I was happy getting to Netflix more and getting to nap more than usual.

The second week turned me into a fitness enthusiast and got me making Workout vlogs.

Today is day 61st day of Lockdown and a lot has happened over the past two months.

The sleep cycle changed conveniently from 3 AM to 11 AM.

There were moments of strength and vulnerability.

At times my plate would be too full, while I am logged in to work, leaving me with no time to eat, while on other days I wouldn’t even know how to kill the time!

There were times where I would start contemplating the purpose of my life, often popping out the question to myself “What am I doing with my life?”. I am sure you have been there too, haven’t you?

There was a “Thali Bajao” followed by a “Dia jalao”.

I was overjoyed and surprised at seeing how keen were everyone being a part of it. It was beautiful and surreal. Not just us, even the Indian living abroad joined us.

And that’s when I also realized that I wasn’t the only one feeling jobless or freaking out here because so are a hundred others around my locality and a million others on Social Media.

Waiting for more such tasks from Modiji, busy evenings that were spend at office months back were reduced to going for a brisk jog around my house amidst the greener grass and colorful flowers.

Or some days it was just watching the sunsets from the windy rooftop, occasionally me trying light a cigarette secretly up there.

From partying at pubs or having elaborate house parties at Bangalore, I adjusted to sneakingly lighting up a smoke or gulping down a tiny peg of Old Monk with a neighborhood pal once in a while, at a park where there would be no cops.

I felt stuck up initially. I missed my friends and my independent lifestyle away from family but soon my perspective changed.

There was a wild storm, there was a heavy downpour. And I saw everything breaking down and falling apart. The evening I felt that I was grateful to have a home and even more grateful that I had my family next to me. I felt safe and protected.

I decided to stay in this city for a longer time.

The storm was destructive but somehow l was fascinated by it. Something calming although within the chaos.

From watching Mahabharata on TV reminiscing childhood to pulling an all-nighter over the gruesome Patallok­­ — on some days I retreated to the olden ways of life, on other days I kept on to the trend.

Lockdown has indeed taken a toll on our bodies and mind like never before.

But when I look back, it has taught me so much.

This lockdown has established one big truth that nature has an immense healing power.

We often get too caught up with the triviality of this material world and forget nature completely.

I had ample time to enjoy nature and in the past 2 months, I connected with it, like never before.

Rather probably Nature was the only thing that kept me sane!

I never observed so many colors in the sky before nor I looked so closely at the bright colored flowers. Yes, we need silence to be able to touch the souls and Mother Nature provides it perfectly.

And most importantly, the Lockdown taught me to live minimally. It has taught me to find happiness in every little thing— be it winning a match of online LUDO, baking my own birthday cake with mum, or simply being able to prepare a meal all by myself for the family.

It’s true you know, while the Virus might have “slowed the paces of our modern lives, it has brought our evergreen memories back.”

And finally, the lockdown is coming to an end.

They say it takes 21 days to build a habit or routine.

And well for us, it’s been close to 65 days or more.

And right now, as much as I want to go out and grab a cup of Starbucks or go shopping­­— deep down I know that I have secretly adjusted my lifestyle in a way right now which I do not want to let go off.

Somewhere deep within, neither you or nor I—­­­ we don’t want the Lockdown to end— cause somewhere within the Pandemic we have found our Peace!

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There are YOU. And there is “Miss Vee”, who lives between your legs.

While it might be difficult to distinguish the need both of you have, cause, she is a part of you.

But if you get a deeper perceptive­—some days your needs can be a bit of contradictory to what she wants, while sometimes you and her could just be catering to the same needs!

In our everyday lives, we the millennial women meet a lot of men.

Post which, we might often have this secret little discussion with our minds and “Miss Vee ” on whether he has a fair chance of getting there or/and what would it be like if he does– Great, Not that great or Average.

To make it easier, it’s a good idea to work out identifying the type of men that you and “Miss Vee” are most likely to have encountered.

I believe that there are three types of men in the dating world.

Of course, three types could be divided even further, but for starters let’s just focus on the basic three as far as my expertise is concern!

1) THE NERD

The Nerd or the Geek is more or less a well-behaved man. He is focused on his career, talks about numbers, and aims at greater things in life.

He will give you all the attention and the love you secretly crave for.

He would cook your comfort food for you and would not really mind to make you meet his parents.

I wouldn’t be surprised if you have met this guy at a matrimony site. Or he could be the one, the parents have asked you to go on a date with.

The problem with him is that he could come across as “socially awkward” and might not be exciting enough for you.

More often, he might not be the guy; “Miss Vee” has a lot of fun with.

So, clearly, NOT YOUR TYPE!

(Surinder ‘Suri’ Sahni from Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi is a beautiful man. He rescued Taani when she needed a husband and a home. He took care of her like a true gentleman when she was in pain. But you would surely agree that he was guileless and quite a “socially awkward” man for the girl to be around.)

2) THE CONFUSED ONE:

He is an average man who works hard on his weekdays and loves to hang out with his hommies on the weekends.

Sometimes he is a charmer. But repulsive the other times.

He is the kind you’re likely to date more than the rest.

He has had his own share of bad past too, which is why he may appear to be confused from time to time— but he is still looking for a relationship.

The problem with a confused man is that he doesn’t know what he wants.

Relationships are like a door-way, which you are either in or are out—and a confused man would put one leg on and one leg out.

People would always think he has a perfect relationship; meanwhile he isn’t sure of where he stands.

A confused man is not necessarily a bad guy whose motif is to play games.

While on some days, he would give “Miss Vee” the time of her life while being extremely passionate, on other days, he may seem disinterested to even have a look at her, clearly leaving you and her equally dissatisfied.

When “Miss Vee” decides to give up on this confused man; he will start making new promises and amendments, to their social and sexual life.

However, that’s only to make her wait more and after a while, he goes back to his old ways, and for the woman, the waiting continues.

(Nick from Salam Namaste is a delightful and charming man. He is a chef, fond of cleanliness. He truly loves his girlfriend Amby. But he is unfortunately torn apart between right and wrong and has serious commitment issues.)

1) THE PLAYER:

Goes without saying, “Miss Vee” looooves the PLAYER!! He is everything exciting and pleasing “Miss Vee” wants.

And well, not just her, initially he would sweep you off your feet too and make you believe you are the luckiest woman alive.

He would tell you what you love to hear and show you what you love to see.

The player is very less matured for his age and although he might be everything good on the bed he cares less about what makes you happy as a woman.

When “Miss Vee” just wants a hookup, this guy is certainly the one.

But don’t count on him for the long-haul, or you being the one that gets him to change his ways!

(Raj Sharma, from Bachna Ae Haseeno is an incorrigible flirt and a player who women find difficult to resist. Every girl he meets, he makes promises of everlasting love only to ghost them and move on to the next one.)

So, those were the type of men you and Miss Vee have met in the past.

Like I mentioned in the beginning, sometimes it could be difficult to distinguish between your needs and her wants.

What might appease her might not fulfill your BASIC needs and on the contrary, what you might actually need for your future and security could be a total turn off for her.

And sigh! Which is also why you are left as single as ME?

You are menstruating and literally having a bad day at work. You have cramps around your abdomen. You yell at your insensitive boyfriend on the call and they ask you “Why are you yelling? Are you on your periods?”

YES. I AM ON MY PERIODS. And you taunting me about it didn’t make me feel any better!

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With the quarantine been extending, I think that the energy around has been super low and with the women who are mostly expected to do chores and office work at the same time from home, I am sure that most of us are going through quite a mental and physical stress.

“Mood swings” is a common term used to describe rapid and intensely fluctuating emotions. People often describe mood swings as a roller coaster of feelings from happiness and contentment to anger, irritability, and even sudden sadness.

While we go through these shifts in our moods a lot of times —during our menstruation, we just tend to have them more frequently or more intensely.

OK, so this is for the men of our lives — knowing what to do when your mum, girlfriend, friend, sister, or wife is on her period could be confusing.

Trust me it’s kinda bewildering for us, the women, too. Our vaginas are bleeding and our emotions are on a turbulence. We feel like laughing one minute and crying the next. But here is what we expect from you men during that time of the month­ — JUST BE NICE TO US!

The woman around you is bound to feel cranky and irritable. So be co-operative.

Lessen our burden of work by helping us in the kitchen or running errands for the things that are required.

Treat us special during those few days. Even if we are not looking at our usual best, compliment us more often.

Giving a relaxing head, foot, or back massage to soothe the tensed nerves can work well too.

We feel insecure, lonely, or depressed during that time. So making extra efforts to assure us of your love will not cause any harm.

We also tend to crave for sweets and chocolates during this time. Rather than commenting on the calorie aspect, get us exactly what we are craving for and just let us be.

Every woman is different, especially during the menstrual phase. For some for us, the start of the period may bring relief from the cramps and cravings. Others may feel more tired than normal and experience painful cramps. It’s a really individual thing.

But in midst of this roller-coaster of emotions and hunger and pain, all we can secretly wish for is for the men around us a little affectionate and empathetic towards us— whatever it is you decide to do to make this period a little better for the woman around you, know that your desire to help us is making the world a more period-positive place. ❤

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton